How Do I Get My Future Fiancé’s Ring Size So I Don’t Spill the Beans About Popping the Question?

Congratulations, you're all set to ask the big question!

The ring, of course, is an essential part to any engagement proposal, but it can be difficult to get your partner’s ring size just right, without giving the game away!

Your honey’s engagement ring should slide on and off the finger with relative ease over the knuckle and then sit snugly at the bottom of the finger — not too tight, not too loose!

Scroll down for expert approved ways to surreptitiously find out your partner’s ring size, all without them even knowing.

Borrow a Ring

This traditional method is still the best way to get a perfectly accurate ring size for your partner. Start off by seeing what rings your loved one wears, especially on their left hand, because that's the closest comparison. When they’re not looking, stealth borrow it and either:

·         Trace exactly around the inside circumference on paper

·         Measure the borrowed ring directly using a printable ring sizer

If tracing is used, take your quality drawing to a jewelers and have your finger measured professionally in order to get the perfect size.

Recruit Friends or Family Members

This step is much easier if they have actually had something happen to them that makes the child in the backyard unavoidable.

Close friends and family members can be resources when attempting to determine the best ring size. Good friends and intimate friends such as parents, family members, and siblings could already know their ring size or could provide natural opportunities to find out.

Choose a person for help who can keep a secret and bring up the topic subtly. Keep those you include to a minimum to reduce the risk of inadvertently disclosing your plans.

Give a Ring for another Event

This strategy will take some advanced planning, but is an excellent time to figure out her size for her upcoming engagement ring. She buys a less fancy ring as a gift for the birthday … anniversary … no-reason-at-all gift.

You can either:

·         Ask their ring size when you are discussing a gift

·         Go jewelry shopping, have them try on ring after ring, plus a whole bunch of other jewelry to mix it up a bit. It would be cool to put them off the scent.

This not only confirms their exact ring size, but might also indicate their jewelry style when the time for engagement rings comes.

Team Up with an Engaged Friend

If you and your partner are good friends with a person who is engaged, you might subtly ask your engaged friend to let your partner try on their engagement ring. This method will provide:

·         An average size for reference

·         Possible indirect disclosure of your partner’s ring size if the friend’s ring is too big

·         A glimpse into your partner’s taste of ring style and design

This all feels so organic when digging up all this relevant details for your proposal preparations.

Get a Temporary Setting

If the surprise part is cutting to close, stressful or developing into something too elaborate, a temporary setting could work.

At Brilliant Earth, you are able to select your ideal diamond and match it to an interim setting. Then, you pop the question with the temporary ring, and schedule a showroom appointment within 60 days of your first transaction. Your partner will be able to replace the setting at the appointment and opt for a new setting of their preference.

With this method, there is no need to feel stressed about the size and you can still add the appeal and romance of an engagement ring being presented at the proposal. It also allows for one more chance to participate in the selection or customization process as a couple, which most couples look forward to.